It's My (Our) Wedding and I'll Whine if I Want To!!!
Allie said: We're at the beginning stages of planning our wedding. Correction: I am at the beginning stages of planning our wedding. And truth be told I like it this way. Tony objects to everything that I wanna do. I told him I wanted my colors to be Black and cream he said "NO! I don't want my colors to be black." Excuse me but is a wedding not ALL ABOUT THE BRIDE ?! He has a friend who is getting married in March 08 and this guy doesn't give a rats ass about what's going on. I ask him when he visits so how's the wedding planning coming along His answer is "I don't know she's planning it all." I know I shouldn't be so one sided cause this day is about both of us. But damn!!! Sit back and let me do the planning!!!!
Tony said: If I'm going to take part in this wedding (and spend my money on it) I should have some say as to what is going on. And you make me sound like I am constantly butting in with the planning, the biggest thing I've complained about was you choice of colors. Black signifies death! Do you want our wedding to be surrounded by signs of death? I'd rather have more happier and vibrant colors. I'm definitely not trying to take over the wedding, but I do want to be involved. If I were to sit there and say nothing, you would get mad at me, I could already hear the "I'm having to do this whole thing BY MYSELF while you sit on your ass and watch football!!" I can't win if I help, and I can't win if I don't help.
Allie said: And the Transformer in a tuxedo as a wedding cake topper!!!!! I have to admit that is a good one.. But dressing up as Chingo Bling? Now I have looked the other way At Optimus being on our cake It was something that took awhile for me to get over. I remember when I was a little girl my grandmother told me that she wanted to bake my wedding cake and it was something she looked forward to. This makes me sad cause it reminds me of her and how that she will never be able to. So naturally I am very picky. And here you come making a joke of something that hits my heart. But I bit my tongue cause this is your day also..But if the transformer is up there then either a care bear or a my little pony is gonna be right next to it.
Tony Said: First of all, you thought it was cute that my mom used to dress me up in boots, and yes I did sport the shorts/boots look when I was a child. So I joked that since Chingo Bling is making that look fashionable, maybe I should dress like that....but it was a joke!! Now, Optimus Prime is one bad motherfucker...and who better to have represent me on top of our wedding cake than him? But all joking aside, I want this wedding to reflect a part of my personality, and I am a big kid at heart, and since you have my heart now, you also get Optimus Prime. And not all my suggestions have been humorous. I also suggested that our wedding invitations are printed only in Spanish because for 1.) it serves to reflect our heritage and 2.) because the Spanish language just looks more romantic on paper than the English language does.
Allie said: . As far as the wedding invitations being in Spanish I suggested printing some for the Spanish speakers in our Family and English for the others. The wedding is not until February 2009 We still have a ways to go but I wanna get most of it out of the way because 1.) I am very picky and am always changing my mind. 2.) I want it all to be perfect even though I know that things can go wrong. I want plenty of time to plan
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lmfao- oh no.
chris was involved in the planning and i liked it that way. it helped me make decisions when i wasn't quite sure exactly what i wanted. but really, while he wasn't involved, involved- like he didn't have to do the research, find everything, widdle down the choices- all he had to do was give his opinion on the final choices we had. i am not making any sense.
allie - let him have opinions on things. he won't be doing the wedding AT ALL. you'll still be and feel like you're doing everything cause it is a shitload of work.
tony- my girls wore black AND we had super bright flowers, which looked TOTALLY KICK ASS against the black. check pics!
Mike is totally like that too. Wants to be involved in everything. You always want what you can't have I think. Girls whose husbands want nothing to do with planning complain, and then those of us whose husbands actualy care also complain.
Don't they know that we want them to be involved, but only enough to say that everything we picked out is perfect and they will do anything we need them to do.
That's IT!
=o)
What worked for us was that we each picked three things that were really important to us. This way we each got the things that were most important to us which made us happier about compromising on the other stuff.
On my DH's list was smashing cake. I wasn't thrilled but it ended up being okay. On my list was that I wanted a good photographer. So, even though my DH wouldn't have wanted to spend so much, I got to hire the photographer I wanted.
So, if Optimus Prime is on the cake (his choice) then Allie should get her colors. :-) Don't sweat the details too much. The best advice I received when I got engaged was to hold off on the planning and enjoy being engaged. Happy planning!
I'm with Mommy Brain on this one. Pick a few that are THE ABSOLUTE, can't-do-without most important things to the two of you and let the rest of the stuff slide. One thing I learned about planning our wedding was that it was a perfect dress rehearsal for the compromises we'd have to deal with during our married life. I wanted everything to be perfect too but Hubby showed me that a little humor sprinkled into the mix made for cool memories later on down the road...
Good luck you two!
I just shared this post with my husband. He thought the Optimus Prime caketop was a great idea. He (ofcourse) had nothing to do with our wedding plans and said maybe we should do it again so he could have a Transformer or Star Wars cake top and this time it would be fun. Any women would take that comment to mean our "first" wedding was not fun. I would like to take this time to remind him that we didn't have a cake top. It was flowers! After much searching, they do not make blonde guys and brown haired girls and he wanted it to look like us--though i'm sure he doesn't remember that!
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